Accepting Each Other As We Are
Welcome to my new adventure in blogging. My name is Audrey and one of my best friends is Randy. He has Cerebral Palsy/CP. I will be sharing our journey together in my blogs. I met Randy about twenty years ago, when we worked together for about one year. Then I went to work someplace else, but we have stayed friends throughout the years. You should have seen us in the beginning. I had a real hard time understanding him when he talked. At first it made me nervous because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, having to ask him to repeat things over and over again, but he is the most patient man I have ever met.
He would repeat and repeat till I would finally get it. Then I discovered the idea of asking him to tell me one word at a time. Oh that helped. Aas time has gone by, I can understand him most of the time, but sometimes I'm way off, and we both get to laughing so hard because what he said and what I thought he said is so NOT even close. I like it when he laughs. Sometimes he gets to laughing and I don't know why he's laughing, but it's contagious and I get to laughing with him. Then I laugh even harder because I don't even know what we're laughing about. I guess you'd have to be there.
When we first got to know eachother, there was a group of four of us that ate lunch together. I remember one of the first times, he was eating a piece of apple with his fork and his arm jerked and the apple piece came flying by my head. I ducked. I'm sure my face looked surprised. I wasn't sure why he was throwing apples at me. He apologized, but we got to laughing so hard about it. Then another time he sneezed while eating and (yep you got it), I got some on me. I asked him if he served a napkin with this dinner. We laughed again. We tease each other and have fun, and it's all good. We don't judge eachother. We just accept eachother as we are. When I look at him, I don't see a man with CP in a wheelchair (or in his case an "Amigo") I see a friend who I enjoy spending time with, and look forward to a longtime friendship.