Looking at things from the perspective of someone who is born disabled, there are two approaches to the disabled world. The first is the perspective of someone who is born disabled. The second is through the eyes of someone who has become disabled because of an injury.
People who live with disabled challenges from birth can have their ups and downs. They have the support of their friends and family who are used to interacting with them as they are.
In the case of someone who wasn’t born with a disability but has become disabled due to an injury or illness, it’s not just a learning experience for them. It’s also one for the people around them on a daily basis.
The person who is born with the disability learns early on to adapt to the challenge of everyday tasks such as shopping. As I grew up I faced many difficult challenges, going to the store to go shopping I have come across whispers and stares from adults to stares and questions from children such as, “why is he in a wheelchair?” and “what’s wrong with him?”.
While everyday tasks such as shopping may seem simple for someone in my position, to the independence of a person who is not disabled but then has to get used to a life of mobility issues is a different ball game. They have to take the time to learn how to adapt to the situation, which depending on the person could take some time.
Growing up with a disability you learn how to ignore the looks, you also learn how to answer the questions that plague the minds of most people. Beyond the looks and the questions, being born with a disability I learned early on to be comfortable asking for help.
Someone who has acquired a disability needs to learn a different approach to shopping. For example, they may not be able to reach every item they need. This is where asking for help will come in handy. Learning to maneuver tight aisle-ways can also take time. Don't try to take a turn to fast until it is absolutely comfortable. There is always a way around and if not, ask for help.
Being born with a disability there are two ways to live life. One way is to live independently, to do everyday tasks on your own. At times depending on the severity of the disability you may have to learn to live with assistance when doing these everyday tasks from a care giver whether it is a nurse or a family member. Everyday tasks that someone with a disability might need a nurse or a family member for would be to get dressed, transfer from bed to chair or even cooking and feeding.
People who are not born with a disability but become disabled are not the only ones who have to learn to adapt. Caregivers in this case are extremely important as they assist the person with the transition to disabled life. Teaching independence takes time, however until then a caregiver will need to learn medications schedules as well as how to care for specifics. For instance, wound care, how to bathe the person, and even the best way to help them dress.
The important part for both perspectives to understand is that life goes on and while changes may need to happen, the ability to adapt is something that we all possess. It just takes more time for some then for others to acquire it.
There are two sides to every story. While learning to adapt and overcome begins from the start someone with a disability and their loved ones, it may not always be as easy as we make it look. As you interact with the people around you, remember that they may be dealing with personal hurdles. Don't judge, ask questions and know that its ok to take the time. Life is constantly changing, learning to adapt can lead to a smoother road ahead when accepting those changes.