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Finding The Middle

Ride the wave! This particular blog will have many aspects that could spur off into many directions. Hopefully I'll be able to stay on track, as I do have a tendency to go off topic before coming back to it. Concentration is not one of my strong suits, but I'm going to give it a go. 

My counselor once said, you can't be up high for a long time, nor can you be down low for a long time. However, you will never be able to stay at an even keel because life has it's ups & downs. 

I have been very blessed in my life. Though I have been through a lot, God has always had His hand on my life & has directed my path one way or another. Some folks, when I tell them about my history are astonished I turned out the way I have. Most children who go through situations similar to mine, don't fare so well. 

I have had super highs & super lows. I didn't like to be in either place because once I landed there, I dwelled there. Things that go up, must come down, & when you've hit the bottom the only way to go is up. Depression hit me hard after I lost my mother. I went through the cycles of grief & got stuck in the anger mode for a long time. I got to that point where darkness became my norm. I didn't care who what where when or why. I was confronted by a girlfriend who said you are making yourself & those around you miserable! You're going to have to change something somewhere. 

I began going to a therapist because I needed help. She would give me "home work" & I would do it, but I didn't "feel" any better. It wouldn't be until I went to a revival meeting with my then estranged friend. I came out of that revival happy, content, peaceful & I repaired my friendship that night. Forgiveness was the key that opened up that heavy dark door & I walked through it into the light. 

I had continued my therapy though I knew God had all the answers I sought. The thing that the therapist said at that point made more sense than when she first said it. You have to find the "middle" & experiment on each side. If you get too high, you'll crash down to below that middle where you don't want to be again. If you get too low you'll fall back into that depression pit & have to crawl back out again. 

Finding the middle wasn't as easy as I thought it would be at first. I had set a new goal & through my determination to reach that goal I hit a super high. When things began to slow down while reaching for my goal I became discouraged & depressed. Then a lightbulb went off! It's ok to be excited & happy, as long as you stay grounded in the back of your mind. 

When I was a young adult, I went through many crashing disapointments. I would allow myself to get super excited & usually when the person set me up for them, they would inevidbly back out in some way & then I would be hurt & angry. I set my sights on the wrong thing. If I hadn't set myself up for it, I wouldn't have gotten to the point of expecting things not to work, or to go wrong. After many years of going through this, I didn't look forward to, or allow myself to get excited about anything. 

When I finally allowed myself to become excited I let it get out of control & would crash. We enable & disable ourselves. God pulled me out of & through many situations until I grasped that He is the constant, He is the middle! I can venture either way, but as long as I stay close to Him, I won't crash either way. 

I know many don't believe in God. Some have a higher power, or are Spiritual. For me, God is the only way to go. I can do many things without Him, but chances are I'm going to need Him to get me out of or pull me through something... so why not start off with Him in the first place. 

He has given me so much more than I could ever have acquired myself. He has given me life, love, happiness, peace, joy, comfort & the middle. 

It's so much easier when you find the middle. Without it, you become pretty lost.

 

 

 

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  1. Lil Nana
    Lil Nana
    Voted....loved it....God is Good!!!
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  2. Teresa Thomas
    Teresa Thomas
    Vote #3.. Rene, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this heart felt blog. I'm sitting here before my computer almost into tears. We both, have the same issues in life that we have been dealing with. You are so right..... God is the only answer that we need to be pulled out of any situations that we may find ourselves in. Grant you, that counseling is good. However, God is the ultimate counselor that we need to hear from and listen to. Like yourself, I too, am in need of being pulled out of this pit that I have found myself, fallen into. Again, excellent job. Maybe, we need to get together some time. If you have a face book account, look me up, and we'll talk over there. Alright? If you are on twitter, then, that's fine too. I have an account there as well. Let me know which you prefer.
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  3. pftsusan
    pftsusan
    Amen. Voted. I invite you to my latest "Don't Change What You Are: The Bethany Hamilton Story". Please vote if you like it. Bethany is also an ordained minister, serving God as well as Soul Surfing and writing.
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  4. Rene
    Rene
    Thanks Y'all. I sure appreciate it. :)
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  5. Akanksha
    Loved this blog Rene. It is not just touchy but also very relatable for me. While reading it felt like these are my words... I am so proud of you!
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    1. Rene
      Rene
      Aww Thank you! That is sweet of you to say & thank you for your kind words.
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  6. Broken English
    Broken English
    Voted. Great blog, this sounds just like me! I realised that as well some time ago, that if I let myself get too high about things, I will also get a terrible corresponding low. I try not to set myself up for a fall now. You might be interested in my latest: blog, Money Talks If You Are Blind! Please check it out and vote if you like it.
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    1. Rene
      Rene
      Thank you. It's easy to set ourselves up for a let down & unfortunately we continue to do it until we learn not to :)
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  7. SignLanguage
    It's a very touching blog. I am the type that doesn't believe in God but one always needs to believe in something - be it God, themselves, karma, the Great Spirit... I believe in nature and karma. And I agree that if you bring yourself up too much, you can come crashing down. But sometimes what brought you up does happen. And when it does, it's beautiful. Staying grounded is the best, but we're human and can't do it all the time. voted! When you have the chance, stop by my new post, The Roots of Sign Languages, and vote if you like it!
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  8. pftsusan
    pftsusan
    Congratulations on making top post, Rene.
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