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Forgiveness and Forgiving

I think that there should be an International Forgiveness Day and that it should be celebrated more than Christmas Day.

We live in a world that is mostly unforgiving. But, more than any other thing in the world, forgiveness and forgiving could lighten the load you are carrying and I believe, increase not only your quality of life but of another person's. In fact, I hold on to the belief that if the world and society learns to forgive and learns how to ask for forgiveness, a lot of things would significantly improve to a magnificent scale. Think about it for a moment and expand your mind with me to see what I'm getting at.

Some quarters inherently predispose themselves that such line of thinking is wishful thinking and not possible. In fact, it could be abused to such extent that people would willingly do others harm and then just ask for forgiveness on that day and get forgiven. That is not the direction I am getting at or pointing towards to. 

I'm pointing towards the direction where the act of forgiving and asking for forgiveness could still fall in line with all the criminal justice systems of the world. Asking for forgiveness entails that one should be willing to accept the legal consequences of your transgression and even pay more than what you've done or stolen. 

Another possible downside is the act of forgiveness does not happen instantaneously. It takes time. In fact for many, it takes a superhuman ability to go beyond the feelings of pain, anger and the desire to exact retribution and vengeance. I know that there are unforgivable crimes such as rape and murder, and for that justice still has to be served.

Politics also makes this difficult and complicated as I've seen in my country when a President once apologized and was then exacted with revenge mercilessly. Revenge is not justice. I find it sad, that we often equate it as such. I find it sad, that we as a species glorify massive retribution in movies, culture, entertainment and in everyday life.

Imagine if every politician or leader - asks for forgiveness. Imagine what would happen to various regimes specially in countries with no Democracy or freedom. Admitting one's wrong, and asking for forgiveness could have the potential to be catastrophic to a political system. 

Why I Think It Should be Done Anyway

Think of life, people, societies, nations, civilizations, actions, cultures - everything as a very complex mathematical and logical equation. How would you simplify or represent it? 

Now I'm not very good in math or logic, but let's try to simplify this.

Let's say that person A kills one person (person B) and that we assign the number -1 to this.

Let's say that person B has 5 children. Then you have

-1 x 5 = -5  

In real life, the common rule is people want vengeance regardless of whether an act is justified or not. True, there is free will and true there is the criminal justice system. But to me, it's a matter of statistics. There's always somebody who would want to exact vengeance and not justice - and it doesn't have to include just the children of person B, but his friends, relatives, organization, club, group, etc.

So if you factor in those people who felt bad because person B got murdered then person A would have a lot of problems and the equation would always be multiplied by negative numbers. 

Hence, my equation is severely deficient for it has to include several items of multiplication and exponential negativity. A lot of people, thence would be negative. The environment would be negative. They could put person A in jail, but there would always be the people affected who would suffer for the death of person B. I should know, for I have known people who were murdered.

Changing the Equation

It is a truth, that forgiveness and the act of forgiving, is always positive

Saying or hearing these two phrases are always life changing:

  • "I forgive you." 
  • "I am asking for your forgiveness for what I've done."

To such effect that balance would be restored and life would be easier and happier for everyone. 

I'm going to stop here to let you add to what I'm thinking.

Please do so via the comments so that maybe, something real would come out of this.

 

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  1. pftsusan
    pftsusan
    #2. this is a good blog. Certainly more of us would get along. I just want to add that forgiving is good because it removes you from being someone else's victim too. I invite you to my new blog, The Importance of Good Writing Techniques.
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    1. Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Thanks :) Went over there Susan.
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  2. Lil Nana
    Lil Nana
    #3 Great idea!
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    1. Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Nice to meet you Lil Nana. Thanks
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      1. Lil Nana
        Lil Nana
        Nice to meet you too
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  3. Carolyn
    Vote #5 Daniel! I believe that I remember you from Good Blogs!
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    1. Lil Nana
      Lil Nana
      What's Good Blogs? I would like to find other sites to blog on where we can choose what we want to write about...not advertising.
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      1. Daniel Andrei Garcia
        Daniel Andrei Garcia
        Goodblogs.com is the creator of this platform :)
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    2. Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Hello Carolyn!!!! Wow, cool :) Looks like we're all back here :D
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  4. SignLanguage
    I find it very interesting to note that forgiveness is not accepting what the other has done, but the act of 'being over it' as in accepting that it happened and leaving it in the past. If I remember correctly, that is the dictionnary definition. I find your blog interesting, too. You give us quite a lot to think about. I would vote for a day of forgiveness. And I voted for you here! Check out my new post - Who is the Handicapped One?
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    1. Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Daniel Andrei Garcia
      Thank you. Forgiveness to me, has many dimensions and I think should be further explored. Come to think of it, thanks for adding that insight. I guess there are many levels of forgiveness. I don't like the dictionary definition so much - as it thoroughly reduces and boxes in the concept. I believe it should be further expanded. Forgiveness can also involve ourselves and nature. As we often do things that are harmful to ourselves and we all know nature's destructive abilities. Thanks again and I'm going to your post now.
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  5. Broken English
    Broken English
    Voted. Great blog, I agree 100%. I have also noticed the phenomenon that you point out, that forgiveness is often not easy and takes a long time, has to be worked at - it is often an ongoing process, rather than an instant effect. Please check out my latest blog for this site Dances with Wheels! I think that is relevant to your blog, in that I describe attending a Dance of Universal Peace, and the whole ethos behind that is forgiveness, tolerance and acceptance of others. :-)
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  6. sweedly
    sweedly
    Very good blog post. I believe forgiveness is an important step in the right direction for everyone. Lots of people hold grudges for things that happened years ago and lives would be must improved by just letting go. Voted! And I add you to my bloggers.
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