"What should I say to her?"
I overheard this conversation at a local store. They were talking about a friend who was now in a wheelchair. "I don't know what to say," was the reply. How do you talk with someone who just two weeks ago, ran and walked, jumped and yelled just like eveyone else on the cheerleading team, but now after the car accident is wheelchair bound?
Why is it so hard for people to talk to disabled friends? There is no shame or embarrassment. Or at least, there should not be. The girl in the wheelchair is the same person she was before the accident and still needs your friendship. If you avoid her due to your own fear of saying the wrong things, she will not remain the same, but will grow depressed and tired, feeling abandoned and betrayed by those she thought were her best friends.
So put away your pride and go to your friends and help them though the worst times of their lives. Let them recover and deal with life with grace and dignity, and be proud you were brave enough do the right thing..