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"What should I say to her?"

I overheard this conversation at a local store. They were talking about a friend who was now in a wheelchair. "I don't know what to say," was the reply. How do you talk with someone who just two weeks ago, ran and walked, jumped and yelled just like eveyone else on the cheerleading team, but now after the car accident is wheelchair bound?

Why is it so hard for people to talk to disabled friends? There is no shame or embarrassment. Or at least, there should not be. The girl in the wheelchair is the same person she was before the accident and still needs your friendship. If you avoid her due to your own fear of saying the wrong things, she will not remain the same, but will grow depressed and tired, feeling abandoned and betrayed by those she thought were her best friends.

So put away your pride and go to your friends and help them though the worst times of their lives. Let them recover and deal with life with grace and dignity, and be proud you were brave enough do the right thing..

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  1. Teresa Thomas
    Teresa Thomas
    This just about brought tears to my eyes. I had a great nephew who was wheelchair bound due to a disability. I will agree, that they are the same person that they were before they had any form of disability. They just have a harder time in getting around at times as we do, and needs to be encouraged and lifted up. So, the next time that we see someone in a wheel chair, just remember, they are human beings as well, and should request the same respect that the other person who isn't in one should obtain.
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    1. sweedly
      sweedly
      Thanks for your reply. When ever I hear people out and about saying such things it makes me sad and mad at the same time. Anyone with a disability already feels out of place in social places. It is a hard climb mentally to get out of that rut and live the best you can. But when such comments come from family and close friends it rips at your heart and causes much sorrow and pain. I have to do a better job of visiting my own relatives, but I hope they know I am always only a phone call away.
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      1. Teresa Thomas
        Teresa Thomas
        I hear you there. One doesn't have to be in a wheelchair to be disabled. They can also, be mentally, disabled as well. Not just with the disabilities that causes them to be disabled, but, they can also, be disabled emotionally. It's called depression. I'm currently, going through this stage in my life of depression. No, I'm not thinking of suicide. Although, it seems, that this does run in my family. I had a brother, and a cousin, that committed suicide. But, I don't think, that I could ever do that under the circumstances in which, I currently, find myself in. No, I need to be in Nevada which, is where the rest of my family is at. From there, I know, that I will be able to get all the moral support that I need from them. I only wished, that in my current situation, that I had done this a long time ago. Unfortunately, I did not. If I had, my sons and I would be up there already. I guess, there's a reason for everything isn't there? Well, I do wish you the best with everything that you're facing right now. I know, that you can do anything that you set your mind to doing. Say, I have another post on here. Take a look at it. It's called "Why Did I Go Back". It talks about, why did I go back to the very thing, that I didn't want to go back to. Please, do vote on it. Take care.
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        1. sweedly
          sweedly
          Enjoyed reading your comment and share your point of view. I know how having depression can be just as bad as the disability that causes it. Being drained emotionally with no energy or excitement in your life is hard to deal with. I struggle with it myself and have had many days of wishing I was some place other than where I was. A friend helped me move from where I was in FL, to where I am now in PA. Do you have a friend or relative that could help you? Keep writing, for they say that writing a journal of your thoughts helps ward off depressive thoughts in getting them out of your head and on to paper or a webpage is good therapy. I'll keep reading what you write. :)
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  2. Lil Nana
    Lil Nana
    #4 Great blog!!!
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