We've all been there at one point or another in our lives. We begin a chapter knowing which direction we are going, forge ahead and the next thing you (unexpectedly) know, life throws us a curve ball. It can come in one form or another: a relationship ends, your employer makes changes and you are in that change, or you make a move to start over and things seemingly aren't going as youthought they were/they don't make sense. What do you do in these instances? The first thing to do is step back and take a deep breath. Think about yourself in the situation, the fact that you did the right thing, you've put forth your best efforts and handled yourself with grace and dignity.
You can look at the situation in one of two ways. You can either sit and wallow in your pity party OR you can say to yourself, "I am now ready for the next stage in my life. I've done all I can, there is nothing else I can do with this situation and/or people. It is time for me to move onto the next phase of my life and make it even better than before." We all have things in our lives that occur. These are guides for the direction we are to go. When you travel and make a wrong turn, you backtrack. Turn around and continue on. Treat life in the same manner.
As you meet people in your life, you will find that each person will fall into one of the categories above. Pity party or move on. The pity party will "stack" up all the hurts, disappointments, failures, in front of them and keep remembering each and every one time and again. It is almost like a locked door without a key, keeping them from moving forward. The key to unlocking the door is remembering, and moving on with life.
On the other han,d when you decide to move on, it all works out for you over time. Things don't happen to you, they happen for you. What if you stayed with the company and missed the opportunity to make more money by accepting a new job? Why would you want to stay in a relationship that isn't positive or productive when you can meet someone who will treat you respectfully?
It's okay to grieve, to hurt, to feel disappointed. But it is not okay to live life in this manner when there are so many ways to make your life better. Learn from the situation and move on. Admit mistakes and remember for the next time. You will be surprised at how much easier and lighter your live will become. Make it a point to move on for your sake as well for those in your life, especially children.
If God can forgive you, why can't you forgive yourself? Your self esteem will rise up. You will feel so much better as time goes by. Try it for yourself. Pat yourself on the back! Learn from the situation and move forward.
You can do it!