Parenting a child with disabilities isn't like parenting an able-bodied child. When you have put in the countless hours and effort into physiotherapy, standing and walkers, each tiny step toward achieving a milestone gives the parent satisfaction that is ten-fold, compared to the regular process of bringing up a child without disabilities. Your unique child teaches you the importance of real virtues such as empathy, compassion, and kindness. So, you begin to look at every individual from a different perspective.
Parenting a child with a disability requires every parent to put up a fight for their child. It makes parents more aware of the health care system, alternative therapies, the social care system, speech and language, diets, etc.
So, as a parent, you are one step ahead of others and have a well-rounded parental experience to cater to your child’s every need. You learn the superficiality of being “normal” and that it doesn’t mean a thing. The parent learns to accept the uniqueness of their child and to understand their child seems to become a life goal. The parent begins to pay less attention to labels that exist in society.
Parenting a child with a disability is not a choice but a challenge. How each parent lives up to such a role gives them more clarity of their character and also tests whether you choose to walk away or support your child. You learn that nothing in life should be taken for granted. You will have to be dedicated to your child and put him/her before you every time, even if it means there is no time for you.
In such a case, the time you do make for yourself after catering to your child makes your time and every little activity so much more meaningful. You begin to admire other parents facing a similar challenge and embrace them and their knowledge. You learn to detach from all outcomes and look within for answers. You learn to live in the “now” and live life for today rather than worrying about tomorrow. Your instincts seem to get stronger, and you can communicate through vibes and not mere words. You will realize that it is fine to use accommodations wherever you go.
After some time has passed, you begin to be grateful for such a unique parenting experience, and you wouldn’t change it for anything.
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